Monday, April 12, 2010

We're Still Here!

Ben has been asking when I was going to update our blog. I just kept thinking it would take too long and I don't have any big chunks of time to myself (really, I'm serious!), but I'm starting now. With a baby on my lap and my three girls asking me when they get their computer time. Now is as good a time as any! :)

The last update was on Christmas Day when Lucas was just 1 week old. We are loving having him as a part of our family. He is sleeping through the night most nights now and is just a joy to be around. He will be 4 months old on Sunday! He has been such a good baby and I have felt WONDERFUL the whole time. I was on some meds from the day after his birth to keep my post partum depression from kicking me down and it worked! I NEVER felt bad like I did with the girls and I have enjoyed this newborn stage so much! I've weaned off of my medicine and still doing good. So many blessings!!!
2010 started off with a bang. And a shock. :) Ben was called to be the Bishop of our church congregation. For those of you who don't know what that means, this is the official definition from our church: "A man who has been ordained and set apart as the presiding high priest for a ward, or congregation. He has overall responsibility for ministering the temporal and spiritual affairs of the congregation." So, yeah, a LOT of responsibility. He was more than a little bit overwhelmed and humbled by this but we both said yes (he said yes and then they asked if I would support him and I said, "Absolutely."). This calling has definitely blessed our lives already. He has been very busy and has meetings a lot but we're doing ok at balancing our lives.

We had planned to have Lucas' baby blessing in church in February but since Ben was made the bishop in mid-January, we bumped it up, so that my dad and Ben's parents could be with us for both occasions. It was really great and I know my mom was there too in spirit. Lucas was so handsome and well-behaved for his blessing, of course. :)
Later in January we went to Ben's employer's (City of Abilene) health fair and had fun at different booths and we signed up for raffles and guess what we won? A free pet adoption from the city shelter! Ben was less than thrilled. Especially when some of the other raffle things to sign up for were free insurance premiums for a month or a Wii. Admittedly, I would have preferred those as well but they had a million people trying for them, so the odds weren't good. :) So we started the search for a pet but I wanted to take my time and get one we really wanted.

In February, my friend Kim & I decided to start doing babysitting trades, so we could go on date nights without paying an arm and a leg for a babysitter. It's been nice to get to go out with Ben a couple of times a month. We usually go to the High Priest Group Social where we eat at a nice restaurant once a month. That's pretty much the only time I get to go out to eat, so I look forward to it! :)

We also had a fun ward activity that month. An Adults Only Valentine's Dance! I guess there were a lot of people out of town or sick (everyone seemed to be sick in either January or February around here!) because we only had about a dozen couples come but it was so much fun! Our activities coordinator is really talented and made the gym look beautiful and we had prizes for most romantic couple, most reverent couple, and there was an award for "How did he get her?" Ha ha.

The next weekend was the youth Valentine's dance at the church and Ben went to chaperone, so I went with him and that was our date. :) Nothing better than FREE! :)

Miranda & Natalie took swimming lessons at the YMCA in February and it wasn't too successful. ;) They didn't like someone shoving them under the water. I find that an odd approach but they always do that in lessons around here. Natalie doesn't ever want to swim now. Miranda actually did quite well and I was surprised how well she listened to the teacher and how willing she was to try new things. Natalie just kept repeating, "I don't want to. I don't want to. I don't want to." Oh well. It was... an experience. :) The teacher said they would both need to repeat the beginning class before moving on. That kind of surprised me because I thought Miranda did great but she is still a little hesitant and the next class requires them to swim independently for 15 feet and she probably wouldn't be comfortable without a noodle or life jacket nearby. I would love to just take the time to teach them myself one-on-one but that would be a little hard right now since I'd have to get a babysitter to do that!

We have had such a cold winter with several snowfalls and I am so glad Spring has sprung. It sure was pretty though and the kids had a great time playing with Daddy in the snow. I didn't want to take the baby out in the cold, so I just ran out to snap some pictures and then watched them through the window. :)

On Saturday, February 27th, Jillian fell in love with a puppy at the shelter and we brought him home on Monday, March 1st. We named him "Echo" and he's half miniature schnauzer & half they-don't-know, but I would guess border terrier. He was 3 lbs when we brought him home at 8 weeks old. At his last check-up he was 5 lbs, so he's getting huge! Ha ha. I'm hoping he'll stay under 10 or 12 lbs.

He's a pretty smart puppy and has done really well with house training overall. He has started nipping at the girls whenever he can and gets really hyper around them, so they are dying to play with him and then screaming and running away from him. *SIGH* I'm going to sign up for a puppy kindergarten and learn how to train him a little better. He used to come whenever I called but now he knows he'll probably get put in his crate, so he likes to make me chase him. He does well with SIT, LIE DOWN, UP, and I can get him to dance on his hind feet and twirl for a Goldfish cracker! :) He doesn't do so well with DOWN but we're working on it. He does pretty well on a walk with me but if the girls are with me, he just runs right, left, forward, back, around my legs. *SIGH* Again, working on it. Puppies are a lot of work and I knew this going in but I just wish he was sweeter with the girls. It'll happen though, I'm sure, as he gets older.

March brought us to SPRING BREAK! Yay! We finally went back to Kansas to see my family! We hadn't been back since my mom's funeral in October because I had a baby! Ben and my dad don't think it's smart for me to travel by myself with 4 kids, so I had to wait until Ben had a break to come with me. So my relatives there finally got to see the baby and of course they all adored him. We only spent a few great days there with my Dad (wish it had been longer) and then headed to Dallas to see Ben's family for a day and a half (again, wish it had been longer). We were able to attend the Dallas Temple while we were there, thanks to my wonderful in-laws babysitting. It was a whirlwind trip (with 4 children and a PUPPY!) and it was surprisingly successful and almost stress-free. We were happy to get home though.

We had a Scout Spaghetti Dinner and Service Auction at church. It was to raise money for the boys to go to Scout Camp this summer. It was really fun and we ended up bidding on a lot of things and ended up paying $25 for a dessert! All for a good cause, right? :) And it was SO yummy! ;) We also paid $50 to have one of the Scouts help us with yard work for 5 hrs. Well worth it! :)

The beginning of April brought our ward Chili Cook-off (which was way fun and so yummy to try everyone's different chilis), Jill's field trip to a tv news station (I loved going to check out the studio & it made me miss my days at Community Cable News in college), General Conference (love to listen to a prophet's voice!), and Easter (Ben's parents visited for the weekend & we had a nice time dying eggs, hunting eggs, going to the zoo, and eating ham & scalloped potatoes!).



In between all of that stuff is play dates, story time at the library, playgroup visits to the park, zoo, fire station, and grocery store, housework :(, and just general taking care of the kiddos. We are all happy and healthy and so grateful for that! Actually, Jill is home from school today with a sore throat and a fever. *SIGH* We expect many happy and exciting times in the future and I will try to post about things more often! :)

Friday, December 25, 2009

Lucas is here!








Lucas Benjamin Bryner joined our family on December 18 at 7:45 AM. He was 8 lbs. 7 oz., 20 1/4 inches long, and PERFECT! He is so adorable and is a great eater, sleeper, smiler (not gassy ones!), and we just adore him. Unfortunately everyone in the family is taking turns getting sick (everyone is on their 2nd cycle now except me!). I am so hoping that Lucas does not get sick! We are loving having a boy and he just fits right in! We've had a great Christmas and wish you all the same!

Sunday, November 8, 2009

I love November

I love November mainly because October is over! That was a physically and emotionally draining month! I traveled to Kansas twice and Las Vegas once. I said goodbye to my mom (aka best friend in the world) and then went to Ben's brother's wedding (which was relaxing and fun to attend) and then came home to the news that my mom had passed away, which by this point was a relief because I knew she was finally not in pain anymore. I love her so much and miss her but I am surprised at how well I'm handling it. She must be sending me major comfort from the other side because although I really want to have a conversation with her, I still feel as if she's with me a lot. The funeral went well and I tried to help my dad get things at the house organized as much as possible. My mom hadn't been able to really do much there for weeks and my wonderful aunts did their best, but I tried to get it back to the way it was for him. He's lonely but he's busy with farming and hopefully getting by the best he can by keeping busy. I think that's helping me too. Back to the busy-ness of my life here with my kids. I am 40 days away from having my baby boy, Lucas, join the family and I can't wait! A little nervous and feeling unprepared to start the baby journey all over again but ready too! My great family in Kansas threw me a shower when I visited Kansas in early October and my great friends here threw me a shower last week, so I have SO much great stuff for this baby. I feel so blessed and so spoiled! Although the past 2 months have been really hard to get through, I think I have grown a lot and learned a lot through my trials. At least some good has come from the tragedy of losing my mom so young. I love you Mom. :)

Ok, also some good stuff happened. Halloween, Trick or Treat, Natalie's 3rd Birthday!!! Here are some cute pics.





Friday, September 25, 2009

Way too much

Well, way too much has happened in the six weeks since I last posted.

Most of you know my mom is dealing with breast cancer. Well, the past few months she's been having pain and problems and we almost lost her the week of her birthday (2nd week of September) due to hypercalcemia (cancer was causing the blood to leech out of her bones and into her blood). She was very fatigued and depressed and my dad took her to his great doctor. He tried to get the calcium problem fixed with a basic approach that usually works but it didn't. He had her come in to check her levels a week later and while entering the clinic, she barely stubbed her toe on the door threshold and broke her femur! Yeah her bones were in bad shape!!! She said it was the most painful thing ever and childbirth is nothing compared to the pain. So they took her to the ER and she was in surgery the next day to get a rod put in her leg. Turns out there was cancer in the bone but the part that had cancer in it is what shattered and was removed, so as far as I understand, she doesn't have it in any other bones as of now. After a couple of days her calcium levels were still rising and I was so worried but was told to not come by her and everybody. "Take care of your kids. We'll keep you updated." Yeah right. It was miserable. Two days after she broke her leg, I couldn't take it anymore and Mom was getting worse. So I found sitters for my kids for the next several days (thank you so much Ben, Kelli, Kim, and Natalie!) and raced up to Kansas to see my mom. She looked pretty bad when I got there. She was so tired and the doctors were amazed she wasn't in a coma yet from the calcium issue. She was kind of telling people she was ready to go (I can imagine why after all that pain and worry of the last year) and I really thought that was the last time I'd see my mom. The next morning everything had changed. Some time after I left that night, the dr came in to try what I think is the 4th medication to try to fix the calcium problem. It worked! I came in to see my mom sitting up in bed and smiling while she ate her breakfast. She had color in her face again and she said she had slept great that night. WHAT??? It was such a miracle. I know that she has had a ton of people fasting and praying for her (and many friends of mine were fasting and praying as well for her and me) and the miracle was amazing. She has continued to get better. Exactly a week from that scary day that I drove up there, she went home from the hospital! She's doing great walking with her walker or scooting around in her wheelchair. My dad put new carpet in the room (needed it anyway but it's nice and flat to make it easy to maneuver) and rented a hospital bed and things that will make it easier to recover. One of her sisters came to help take care of her all this month and I was able to come home to my family but it's been hard to not make sure she's ok every day. I have had such an emotional roller coaster in this past few weeks. I know she still has cancer and she's not going to live forever but I am SO grateful for the extra time we've been granted together. She has been so excited to meet her grandson in December and that's a possibility now!

On to better news... baby boy is growing and as of last Monday, he weighs an estimated 2 lb. 1 oz. and is still very much a boy. He's always moving and flipping and I'm starting to feel body parts now, which is cool. I'm still doing water aerobics 3 or 4 mornings a week and that's been fun. I've only gained 12 lbs so far and everyone says I look tiny (not to me!). I'm definitely carrying different this time though.

Jill started school! She really enjoys 1st grade, loves her teacher and their class parrot Murphy, and already has a boy that picks on her or bugs her every day (I'm guessing because he thinks she's cute). She is loving being back in school and Miranda is SO ready to join her next year!

I turned 32! I'm liking this age too. My parents came down to see me that weekend and although my mom was in obvious pain and couldn't do much with us, it was just so nice to see them. Luckily Mom isn't in pain anymore. Yay pain meds!!! The Young Women from church got me a cake for our regular Wednesday night activity and there was a ton left to bring home, so I didn't even have to bake my own birthday cake! Yay! I ended up going to a 1st Grade Parent Forum on my actual birthday. Yay? :)

Labor Day weekend was fun. We went to the zoo and just hung out and had fun. No traveling! On the Monday, we did some much needed yardwork and although we don't enjoy that at all, we appreciated the fruits of our hard labor. :)

Jill turned 7! We went to Dallas for the weekend of Jill's birthday and spent the time with grandparents and cousins. Ben was able to go to a live UFC event in Dallas with two of his old friends and he thoroughly enjoyed it. The girls were well behaved for the most part but I've never heard them say, "Are we there yet? How much longer?" more than they did on this trip and it's not even as long as our Kansas trips!

Miranda is doing karate at the YMCA and Jill does a KidzFit class there. Natalie loves the nursery there ("The Playroom") and it's nice for mom to get a break! :) Jill is also doing Daisy Girl Scouts and piano lessons. Things have been busy lately but I'm not sure what to cut out because it's all good stuff, right? Miranda & Natalie are playing really well together with Jill in school. They fought a lot more when there was 3 of them here but I guess if they want someone to play with them, they have to be nice to the one that's here with them! :)

So as of now, life really is good. I worry about my mom and about having another baby (PPD nightmares!) but we are healthy and happy and I am trying to appreciate the good in every day (and downplay the bad). :)

Friday, August 14, 2009

Better Late Than Never

I haven't been updating lately but a lot has happened. The most exciting news is we are having a BOY! We just found out this week and the girls are all excited, as well as Ben of course.

Second biggest news which is actually HUGE is that Natalie is finally potty trained!!! I thought this day might never come! Now I'm knocking on wood to not undue this wonderful change!

Quick update...

We went to Kansas for the 4th of July and had a great time with my parents. Spent most of July just going to the library and play group and field trips, etc.

Went to Kansas again the first week of August to visit my family and TO SEE WICKED THE MUSICAL WITH MY MOM!!! It was SO amazing and it was so much fun to just have a night out with my mom. We went to this quirky little deli and split an awesome sandwich with potato salad. Yummy! Then we walked to the Tulsa Performing Arts Center. It wasn't too far to walk but I sure was tired by the time we got there!





We would love to see it again if we ever have the opportunity! That was my birthday gift from my mom. Isn't she awesome? My dad babysat my girls and put them to bed and everything! He's awesome too. :)

August seems like an avalanching snowball. Keeps going faster and faster but it's exciting because at the end of August is my birthday! And Jill starts 1st grade!

We joined the YMCA last week and have been going every day. It's been fun. Jill is doing her KidzFit class, Miranda is doing Karate, Natalie LOVES the play room, I'm doing water aerobics almost every day and Ben is playing racquetball or basketball or just doing the cardio machines. It's been good for all of us and I'm glad we did it. I hope I can keep it up 'til the end of the pregnancy and then get back to it quickly.

Things are good here and now you're caught up. :) I'll post pictures later...